If you've been following the relationship advice in The Magic Of Making Up, by TW Jackson, but have been having trouble getting back together with your ex the following tips will put you on the right path.

Read The Whole Book

When you're in emotional pain, your first priority to is to make it stop. With that in mind you may be tempted to jump right to the end of the book and start getting involved with the gameplan to get your ex on a date.

Often overlooked is the build up to that point. The Magic Of Making Up uses a progression that starts with an analysis of your current situation to assess the best and most effective course of action. Skipping over this step is a common, although critical mistake.

If you take a look back at your relationship you'll see a definite progression. First you were friends, then dated, then you developed an intimate relationship. You have to approach reconciliation from the same perspective. You can't jump right back into the loving commitment you once had. You have to rebuild your trust before rebuilding your love.

Respect The 30 Day Rule

In some cases, people picking up The Magic Of Making Up have already been separated for more than thirty days with little or no contact so they're able to progress through the advice at a faster pace.

But if your breakup is still fresh, or if you've recently had an unpleasant meeting with your ex, you need time apart. It gives your ex time to calm down, reflect on your relationship and gives them an opportunity to miss you.

If you're calling every twenty minutes, text messaging at all hours or showing up unexpectedly all you're doing is limiting your chances of getting them back. Avoiding contact is one of the more difficult steps, but it is very important.